Discussion:
Nominative "me"
Add Reply
Mike Spencer
2024-11-01 19:24:51 UTC
Reply
Permalink
Single data point: Quote from J.D. Vance:

I think that, frankly, I wouldn't be surprised if me and Trump won
just the normal gay guy vote...

I recall in elementary school in the early 50s, kids saying stuff
like, "Me an' him was over to the store..." and being corrected to
say, "He and I..." That pedagogical item seems to have propagated
into usages like "It was a surprise to he and I..." where the pedagogy
was internalized as an incantation rather than an as a grammatical
concept.

But Vance is a Yale law grad, might be supposed to be smarter (or at
least better educated) than that.

Huh.
--
Mike Spencer Nova Scotia, Canada
Stefan Ram
2024-11-01 21:19:53 UTC
Reply
Permalink
Post by Mike Spencer
But Vance is a Yale law grad, might be supposed to be smarter (or at
least better educated) than that.
It's a real head-scratcher that's got grammar nerds all hot
and bothered. So here's the skinny: Using "me" as a subject
(like in "Me and Bob went to the beach") is a no-go in proper
English. The "correct" way is to use "I" when you're the subject,
as in "Bob and I went to the beach."

But here's where it gets gnarly - in everyday speech, people use
nominative "me" all the time. You'll hear folks say stuff like
"Me and my squad are hitting up Coachella" without batting an eye.

Now, if you're writing a term paper or schmoozing with your boss,
you might want to steer clear of nominative "me." It's about as
formal as flip-flops at a black-tie gala. But in casual convo?
It's no biggie. It's just part of how people talk, like saying
"hella" or complaining about the 405 freeway.

Some grammar mavens get their panties in a twist over this, but
language is always evolving. What's considered "correct" today
might be as outdated as a flip phone tomorrow. So, there you have it
- the 411 on nominative "me." Use it in your group chats and beach
bonfires, but maybe not in your cover letter for that sweet tech
startup gig. Keep it real, but know when to code-switch.
Joy Beeson
2024-11-02 02:29:44 UTC
Reply
Permalink
Post by Stefan Ram
language is always evolving
Nominative "me" has been around for eighty years that I can personally
attest to.
--
Joy Beeson, U.S.A., mostly central Hoosier,
some Northern Indiana, Upstate New York, Florida, and Hawaii
joy beeson at centurylink dot net http://wlweather.net/PAGEJOY/
The above message is a Usenet post.
Mike Spencer
2024-11-02 05:46:31 UTC
Reply
Permalink
Post by Joy Beeson
Post by Stefan Ram
language is always evolving
Nominative "me" has been around for eighty years that I can personally
attest to.
Hah. You have beat. I can only personally attest to hearing the
usage 76 years ago. :-)
Post by Joy Beeson
http://wlweather.net/PAGEJOY/
Never made a whole garment but I can turn a collar.
--
Mike Spencer Nova Scotia, Canada
Joy Beeson
2024-11-12 03:13:17 UTC
Reply
Permalink
On 02 Nov 2024 02:46:31 -0300, Mike Spencer
Post by Mike Spencer
Never made a whole garment but I can turn a collar.
I've made many whole garments, but I've never turned a collar.

I'm reasonably sure I understand the principle.
--
Joy Beeson
joy beeson at centurylink dot net
Snidely
2024-11-12 05:38:00 UTC
Reply
Permalink
Post by Joy Beeson
On 02 Nov 2024 02:46:31 -0300, Mike Spencer
Post by Mike Spencer
Never made a whole garment but I can turn a collar.
I've made many whole garments, but I've never turned a collar.
I'm reasonably sure I understand the principle.
It's the unpicking of the old stitching to free the collar to turn
that's the fun part.

/dps
--
Courage is knowing it might hurt, and doing it anyway.
Stupidity is the same.
And that's why life is hard.
-- the World Wide Web
Bertel Lund Hansen
2024-11-02 06:02:00 UTC
Reply
Permalink
Post by Joy Beeson
Post by Stefan Ram
language is always evolving
Nominative "me" has been around for eighty years that I can personally
attest to.
I tried an Ngram with "him and me went". Hits begin in 1820. With seven
(or six) zeroes it's not *very* seldom. I took an extreme example just
for fun, but I would call "him and me went" an error in spite of my
general approach which is that nominative use of accusative pronouns is
pure routine for me.

When I was a child my parents tried to correct that as an error - quite
in vain. Today even the most hardliner nominativists will use the
accusative form in certain cases.

PS. Also a more normal expression as "John and me went" can be found
from 1820.
--
Bertel
Kolt, Denmark
Mike Spencer
2024-11-02 05:38:00 UTC
Reply
Permalink
Post by Stefan Ram
Post by Mike Spencer
But Vance is a Yale law grad, might be supposed to be smarter (or at
least better educated) than that.
It's a real head-scratcher that's got grammar nerds all hot
and bothered. So here's the skinny: Using "me" as a subject
(like in "Me and Bob went to the beach") is a no-go in proper
English. The "correct" way is to use "I" when you're the subject,
as in "Bob and I went to the beach."
But here's where it gets gnarly - in everyday speech, people use
nominative "me" all the time. You'll hear folks say stuff like
"Me and my squad are hitting up Coachella" without batting an eye.
Now, if you're writing a term paper or schmoozing with your boss,
you might want to steer clear of nominative "me."
Or running for VP of the USA, perhaps?
Post by Stefan Ram
It's about as
formal as flip-flops at a black-tie gala. But in casual convo?
It's no biggie. It's just part of how people talk...
Yeah, I knew that. Just wonder if the candidate doesn't care if he
sounds like an ignoramus or if he just wants the 50% of voters who
read (so presuambly also converse) at the 5th grade level to feel that
he's one of them.
Post by Stefan Ram
...like saying
"hella" or complaining about the 405 freeway.
Some grammar mavens get their panties in a twist over this, but
language is always evolving. What's considered "correct" today
might be as outdated as a flip phone tomorrow. So, there you have it
- the 411 on nominative "me." Use it in your group chats and beach
bonfires, but maybe not in your cover letter for that sweet tech
startup gig. Keep it real, but know when to code-switch.
I've had good neighbors and even an agreeable employer who were almost
completely illiterate so yeah, I know about code-switch (although I
never thought of calling it that). In any case, none of them went to
Yale and none ran for even local office.
--
Mike Spencer Nova Scotia, Canada
Aidan Kehoe
2024-11-02 08:10:40 UTC
Reply
Permalink
Post by Mike Spencer
Post by Stefan Ram
Post by Mike Spencer
But Vance is a Yale law grad, might be supposed to be smarter (or at
least better educated) than that.
It's a real head-scratcher that's got grammar nerds all hot
and bothered. So here's the skinny: Using "me" as a subject
(like in "Me and Bob went to the beach") is a no-go in proper
English. The "correct" way is to use "I" when you're the subject,
as in "Bob and I went to the beach."
But here's where it gets gnarly - in everyday speech, people use
nominative "me" all the time. You'll hear folks say stuff like
"Me and my squad are hitting up Coachella" without batting an eye.
Now, if you're writing a term paper or schmoozing with your boss,
you might want to steer clear of nominative "me."
Or running for VP of the USA, perhaps?
Post by Stefan Ram
It's about as
formal as flip-flops at a black-tie gala. But in casual convo?
It's no biggie. It's just part of how people talk...
Yeah, I knew that. Just wonder if the candidate doesn't care if he
sounds like an ignoramus or if he just wants the 50% of voters who
read (so presuambly also converse) at the 5th grade level to feel that
he's one of them.
Almost certainly the latter. There are big swathes of the population for whom
going to Yale is not a selling point.
--
‘As I sat looking up at the Guinness ad, I could never figure out /
How your man stayed up on the surfboard after fourteen pints of stout’
(C. Moore)
Athel Cornish-Bowden
2024-11-02 08:37:08 UTC
Reply
Permalink
Post by Mike Spencer
[ … ]
I've had good neighbors and even an agreeable employer who were almost
completely illiterate so yeah, I know about code-switch (although I
never thought of calling it that). In any case, none of them went to
Yale and none ran for even local office.
Completely illiterate people can become quite skilled at hiding the
fact. The other night we saw The Reader, in which a former SS guard
preferred to go to prison for 20 years rather than admit that she was
illiterate and therefore that she coudn't have written the document
that was a major piece of evidence against her.

On the other hand I knew someone 60 years ago who couldn't spell to
save his life (though he was perfectly capable of reading) and who
later became a very distinguished historian at Oxford. Presumably he
had someone to fix his work before sending it for publication.
--
Athel -- French and British, living in Marseilles for 37 years; mainly
in England until 1987.
Bertel Lund Hansen
2024-11-02 09:19:06 UTC
Reply
Permalink
Post by Athel Cornish-Bowden
Completely illiterate people can become quite skilled at hiding the
fact.
I think that the style in Denmark is to be quite open about it. Some
months ago I wanted to make a special order in the local supermarket. An
assistant helped me and wrote down my specification, name and address.
But in the process I saw that she spelled some words wrong, and I said
so (I didn't want to get the wrong items or have sent to a wrong
address). She just looked up at me and said "I am dyslectic". So I
spelled the words for her.

It was nice that she so simply disarmed the 'bomb'.

Recently I saw a small Danish series on tv. Five dyslectic people were
challenged by a famous Danish writer who is also dyslectic. The five
persons all were ashamed of their handicap, but they rose to each new
challenge and came out stronger persons than before.

One challenge was that they had to write on large cardboard pieces how
it was for them to be dyslectic. They had maybe ten cards each. Next
they had to stand on a large square where many people went by, and
display the boards one by one. It was of course also displayed on tv.
--
Bertel
Kolt, Denmark
Rich Ulrich
2024-11-02 16:45:02 UTC
Reply
Permalink
Post by Athel Cornish-Bowden
Post by Mike Spencer
[ … ]
I've had good neighbors and even an agreeable employer who were almost
completely illiterate so yeah, I know about code-switch (although I
never thought of calling it that). In any case, none of them went to
Yale and none ran for even local office.
Completely illiterate people can become quite skilled at hiding the
fact. The other night we saw The Reader, in which a former SS guard
preferred to go to prison for 20 years rather than admit that she was
illiterate and therefore that she coudn't have written the document
that was a major piece of evidence against her.
Kate Winslet won an Oscar for The Reader, and I rated it 10 at
IMDb. I found that to be a very touching movie.

Hiding illiteracy? "I don't have my glasses" and other excuses.
I vaguely remember beiing part of a conversation on the subject,
during which one person said something like, "That sounds like
my wife's Dad." I don't remember whether that was a
conversation stopper.
Post by Athel Cornish-Bowden
On the other hand I knew someone 60 years ago who couldn't spell to
save his life (though he was perfectly capable of reading) and who
later became a very distinguished historian at Oxford. Presumably he
had someone to fix his work before sending it for publication.
--
Rich Ulrich
Stefan Ram
2024-11-02 13:30:36 UTC
Reply
Permalink
Post by Mike Spencer
Post by Stefan Ram
It's about as
formal as flip-flops at a black-tie gala. But in casual convo?
It's no biggie. It's just part of how people talk...
Yeah, I knew that.
This "me" thing is like a broken record in this Newsgroup . . .
Post by Mike Spencer
I've had good neighbors and even an agreeable employer who were almost
completely illiterate so yeah, I know about code-switch (although I
never thought of calling it that). In any case, none of them went to
Yale and none ran for even local office.
Back in high school German class, our totally rad and wicked smart
teacher lady - total smokeshow too - broke down the diff between
"fancy talk" and "basic speak" for us. Basically, the brainiacs
who've got the fancy talk down pat can usually downshift to
basic speak when they need to. But the folks who only know basic?
They're stuck in first gear, can't rev up to that fancy talk level
if their life depended on it. (It's kind of like how some of us can
switch between discussing Napa Valley wines and In-N-Out burger
preferences without breaking a sweat.)
Stefan Ram
2024-11-02 13:55:51 UTC
Reply
Permalink
Basically, the brainiacs who've got the fancy talk down pat
can usually downshift to basic speak when they need to.
"Nah, we straight."
Mike Spencer
2024-11-02 20:53:09 UTC
Reply
Permalink
Post by Stefan Ram
This "me" thing is like a broken record in this Newsgroup . . .
Well, sorry about that. I've only been browsing a.u.e for a couple
years, hadn't seen it before. Thought the very public mis-usage by a
high-profile controversial candidate was noteworthy.
Post by Stefan Ram
Post by Mike Spencer
I've had good neighbors and even an agreeable employer who were almost
completely illiterate so yeah, I know about code-switch (although I
never thought of calling it that). In any case, none of them went to
Yale and none ran for even local office.
Back in high school German class, our totally rad and wicked smart
teacher lady - total smokeshow too - broke down the diff between
"fancy talk" and "basic speak" for us. Basically, the brainiacs
who've got the fancy talk down pat can usually downshift to
basic speak when they need to. But the folks who only know basic?
They're stuck in first gear, can't rev up to that fancy talk level
if their life depended on it. (It's kind of like how some of us can
switch between discussing Napa Valley wines and In-N-Out burger
preferences without breaking a sweat.)
My wife is less inclined to habitual attentive usage than I but on one
occasion, having tea [1] with a neighbor, the neighbor remarked,
"Peggy, can't you just talk reg'lar?"

Having spent quite a lot of time in the blue-collar workplace and
lived many years in very rural places, I reckon I can adjust to most
any level of conversation. I was never able, however, to duplicate
the discourse of a neighbor, cica 1970, whose conversation could be
roughly transcribed by assigning the string "fukkin" to all
punctuation or even perhaps to the space bar. :-)

[1] Not "high tea", yunnerstan. Rural Lunenburg County tea: Several
teabags brought to a boil in water. Left on the back of the
wood-range stove top for later, more teabags and water added and
brought again to a boil when a visitor shows up. De re gustibus
etc.
--
Mike Spencer Nova Scotia, Canada
Bertel Lund Hansen
2024-11-02 21:49:55 UTC
Reply
Permalink
Post by Mike Spencer
Having spent quite a lot of time in the blue-collar workplace and
lived many years in very rural places, I reckon I can adjust to most
any level of conversation. I was never able, however, to duplicate
the discourse of a neighbor, cica 1970, whose conversation could be
roughly transcribed by assigning the string "fukkin" to all
punctuation or even perhaps to the space bar. :-)
While studying to be a teacher I would take the odd job in the summer
holiays. In most workplaces you couldn't hear a sentence without a
swearword.

That was way before "fuck(ing)" came to Denmark. It is now a common
swearword.
--
Bertel
Kolt, Denmark
Stefan Ram
2024-11-03 15:15:23 UTC
Reply
Permalink
Post by Mike Spencer
Post by Stefan Ram
This "me" thing is like a broken record in this Newsgroup . . .
Well, sorry about that.
No problem! Here are some subject lines containing "me":

2003-08-10 Me, I and Irene
2003-11-14 Me,I,My
2003-12-21 Me/I/myself
2004-07-01 Me 'n' you 'n' a Queen named Boo...
2006-04-13 Me and I
2006-09-22 me,us,him etc.
2007-03-01 Me again
2008-06-25 Me and Gmail
2009-03-17 Me and the Duchess, hangin' out
2010-11-07 Me, I
2011-07-13 me
2012-04-25 Me? or I?
2013-03-15 Me/I
2015-02-24 Me and At&T
2015-07-27 Me again
2015-08-31 Me
2017-07-18 me ,too
2017-10-13 me to?
Stefan Ram
2024-11-03 15:32:42 UTC
Reply
Permalink
Post by Mike Spencer
Post by Stefan Ram
This "me" thing is like a broken record in this Newsgroup . . .
Well, sorry about that.
And that's from the FAQ:

|From: ***@scripps.edu (Mark Israel)
|Newsgroups: alt.usage.english,alt.answers,news.answers
|Subject: alt.usage.english FAQ
|Followup-To: poster
|Date: 30 Sep 1997 00:45:52 GMT
|Organization: The Scripps Research Institute, La Jolla, California, USA
|Expires: Thu, 30 Oct 1997 00:00:00 GMT
|Message-ID: <60pi40$hn8$***@hermes.scripps.edu>
|
|Archive-name: alt-usage-english-faq
|Posting-Frequency: monthly
|Last-modified: 29 September 1997
|
| THE ALT.USAGE.ENGLISH FAQ FILE
| ------------------------------
|
| by Mark Israel
| ***@scripps.edu
| Last updated: 29 September 1997
. . .
|"between you and I"
|-------------------
|
| The prescriptive rule is to use "you and I" in the same contexts
|as "I" (i.e., as a subject), and "you and me" in the same contexts
|as "me" (i.e., as an object). In "between you and me", since "you
|and me" is the object of the preposition "between", "me" is the only
|correct form. But English-speakers have a tendency to regard
|compounds joined with "and" as units, so that some speakers use "you
|and me" exclusively, and others use "you and I" exclusively,
|although such practices "have no place in modern edited prose"
|(WDEU). "Between you and I" was used by Shakespeare in _The
|Merchant of Venice_. Since this antedates the teaching of English
|grammar, it is probably *not* "hypercorrection". (This is mentioned
|merely to caution against the hypercorrection theory, not to defend
|the phrase.) Shakespeare also used "between you and me".
. . .
|"It's me" vs "It is I"
|----------------------
|(freely adapted from an article by Roger Lustig)
|
| Fowler says: "_me_ is technically wrong in _It wasn't me_ etc.;
|but the phrase being of its very nature colloquial, such a lapse is
|of no importance".
|
| The rule for what he and others consider technically right is
|*not* (as is commonly misstated) that the nominative should *always*
|be used after "to be". Rather, it is that "to be" should link two
|noun phrases of the same case, whether this be nominative or
|accusative:
|
| I believe that he is I. Who do you believe that he is?
| I believe him to be me. Whom do you believe him to be?
|
|According to the traditional grammar being used here, "to be" is not
|a transitive verb, but a *copulative* verb. When you say that A is
|B, you don't imply that A, by being B, is doing something to B.
|(After all, B is also doing it to A.) Other verbs considered
|copulative are "to become", "to remain", "to seem", and "to look".
|
| Sometimes in English, though, "to be" does seem to have the
|force of a transitive verb; e.g., in Gelett Burgess's:
|
| I never saw a Purple Cow,
| I never hope to see one;
| But I can tell you, anyhow,
| I'd rather see than be one.
|
|The occurrence of "It's me", etc., is no doubt partly due to this
|perceived transitive force. In the French _C'est moi_, often cited
|as analogous, _moi_ is not in the accusative, but a special form
|known as the "disjunctive", used for emphasis. If _etre_ were a
|transitive verb in French, _C'est moi_ would be _Ce m'est_.
|
| In languages such as German and Latin that inflect between the
|nominative and the accusative, B in "A is B" is nominative just like
|A. In English, no nouns and only a few personal pronouns ("I",
|"we", "thou", "he", "she", "they" and "who") inflect between the
|nominative and the accusative. In other words, we've gotten out of
|the habit, for the most part.
|
| Also, in English we derive meaning from word position, far more
|than one would in Latin, somewhat more than in German, even. In
|those languages, one can rearrange sentences drastically for
|rhetorical or other purposes without confusion (heh) because
|inflections (endings, etc.) tell you how the words relate to one
|another. In English, "The dog ate the cat" and "The cat ate the
|dog" are utterly different in meaning, and if we wish to have the
|former meaning with "cat" prior to "dog" in the sentence, we have to
|say "The cat was eaten by the dog" (change of voice) or "It is the
|cat that the dog ate." In German, one can reverse the meaning by
|inflecting the word (or its article): _Der Hund frass die Katze_
|and _Den Hund frass die Katze_ reverse the meaning of who ate whom.
|In Latin, things are even more flexible: almost any word order will
|do:
| Feles edit canem
| Feles canem edit
| Canem edit feles
| Canem feles edit
| Edit canem feles
| Edit feles canem
|all mean the same, the choice of word order being made perhaps for
|rhetorical or poetic purpose.
|
| English is pretty much the opposite of that: hardly any
|inflection, great emphasis on order. As a result, things have
|gotten a little irregular with the personal pronouns. And there's
|uncertainty as to how to use them; the usual rules aren't there,
|because the usual word needs no rules, being the same for nominative
|and accusative.
|
| The final factor is the traditional use of Latin grammatical
|concepts to teach English grammar. This historical quirk dates to
|the 17th century, and has never quite left us. From this we get the
|Latin-derived rule, which Fowler still acknowledges. And we *do*
|follow that rule to some extent: "Who are they?" (not "Who are
|them?" or "Whom are they?") "We are they!" (in response to the
|preceding) "It is I who am at fault." "That's the man who
|he is."
|
| But not always. "It is me" is attested since the 16th Century.
|(Speakers who would substitute "me" for "I" in the "It is I who am
|at fault" example would also sacrifice the agreement of person, and
|substitute "is" for "am".)
.
HenHanna
2024-11-01 21:45:29 UTC
Reply
Permalink
Post by Mike Spencer
I think that, frankly, I wouldn't be surprised if me and Trump won
just the normal gay guy vote...
I recall in elementary school in the early 50s, kids saying stuff
like, "Me an' him was over to the store..." and being corrected to
say, "He and I..." That pedagogical item seems to have propagated
into usages like "It was a surprise to he and I..." where the pedagogy
was internalized as an incantation rather than an as a grammatical
concept.
But Vance is a Yale law grad, might be supposed to be smarter (or at
least better educated) than that.
Huh.
i recently learned that Barry Obama grew up in a rich family
---- his friends, his White Girlfriend in College... were all White


but (come Big Election), he and Kamala try to sound Black


Hillary Clinton is suddenly a big Yankees and Mets fan

Bill Clinton sounds Sothern and folksy

Reagan suddenly emphasizes his Irish roots


J.D. Vance can't do any of the above... so he
tries to sound Down-to-Earth and Folksy by .........
Loading...